“NEVER SETTLE.”
People often confuse the idea of “not settling” for “always looking for something better”.
Don’t get it twisted.
Taking action to follow your dreams in pursuit of worthy goals
- is NOT the same as -
Abandoning people, places, or things because you no longer find them pleasurable or rewarding.
So many people waste their lives away aimlessly trying new things and dropping them for the next shiny object that comes their way.
Dating, work, travel, hobbies - you name it, swinging from branch to branch, hoping to find something that “completes them”. But what they are missing is within, and can’t be find outside of oneself.
It’s Goldilocks Syndrome - never being satisfied, always on the hunt.
Really, people are just looking to avoid pain. Seeking comfort. Temporary pleasure. Freedom from emotional distress.
Look, it’s good to want to upgrade your life. That’s a move in the right direction.
But you can’t do it by always chasing something new. By filling your life and house with things, people - distractions.
You can only improve your life by improving yourself.
Otherwise, what’s really missing will come to haunt you. It will threaten to take away whatever you have. Some of the good things and relationships you’ve built.
“Never Settle” also doesn’t mean to stubbornly hold on to things not meant for you, even when it’s clear that there’s no chance you can win.
You need to know when to fold. If you cling, it’s out of desperation. Pride. Ego.
This is even more difficult when it’s something you hold near and dear to you. If you cling onto a dead corpse, the dream becomes a nightmare.
You need to know when to let go.
No one but yourself will know.
But deep inside, you will always know.
What “Never Settle” means is:
To never compromise on your values, your integrity, your wellbeing - the stuff your dreams are made of.
To strive to achieve your goals for the learning. Not the rewards.
The process and not the product. The journey, not the destination.
It’s about prioritization.
Ultimately, it’s about putting yourself first.
Never settle for a lesser version of you.
But people do things in the wrong order.
They go after the accomplishments, the recognition, the fame, the bragging rights, the convenience.
And in doing so, they leave behind a wake of burned bridges, unfinished projects, shallow connections, a big body count.
Baggage.
Regrets.
Before you can get what you want, you have to know what you’re going after.
Going after the life of your dreams begins with introspection.
Knowing who you are.
Knowing what you want.
Knowing why you want it.
Knowing how to go get it.
Knowing where to look.
Looking is not knowing.
Knowing is not doing.
Doing is the only way to achieve your goals.
There will be missteps. There will be pain. There will be failure. Lots of failure.
There will be brief moments of joy.
The changes in you will all be worth it.
There will always be change. Life is flux.
But through it all, you will find what you’re really looking for - peace.
It comes and goes. But when your goal is to grow, the skills you learn will help you get it back faster and more easily, and to then share it with others.
Same with love. Love comes from peace.
The growth mindset gives you those skills.
So come FLUX with me.
I’m sharing my story and my progress through my writing here and on social media so you can learn from my lessons, failures, success - to help you find your own way. Look, I’m no guru. But I’ll share what I’ve learned. It’s been one hell of a trip so far, one that I’ll be riding until my last breath. So feel fee to follow my journey via my social links below.
And no matter what happens before then, at least I’ll know this:
“I did it… myyyyyyy… waaaaayyyyyy.”
#FLUXEVERYDAY
